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⁠⁠ Identities hold us hostage:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ If

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Identities hold us hostage:⁠⁠
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If you have to be seen as competent, asking for help is risky!⁠⁠
If you have to be seen as open-hearted, setting a boundary is risky!⁠⁠
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As soon as we claim an identity, we are immediately a hostage to it because we limit ourselves to behaviors that AFFIRM this identity. ⁠⁠
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True freedom has no identity, freedom is simply appropriate to the situation. ⁠⁠
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Freedom means allowing for paradox, contradiction, and mobility of point of view. ⁠⁠
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Freedom means being competent AND asking for help when necessary. ⁠⁠
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Freedom means acknowledging your flaws AND knowing that you’re still valuable.⁠⁠
Freedom means we can be SIMULTANEOUSLY self-critical and self-compassionate. ⁠⁠
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Why? Because freedom isn’t in service of our ego, it’s in service of the situation. Freedom is always appropriate to the circumstance.⁠⁠
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Want more freedom? Ask yourself:⁠⁠
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What aren’t others allowed to think of me?⁠⁠
How do I NEED others to see me? ⁠⁠
What behaviors or habits do I use to maintain how others see me?⁠⁠
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#selfknowledge #adulting #selfacceptancejourney #selfcompassion #selfaware #knowthyself #selflovejourney #innerwisdom #humancondition #emotionalgrowth #mentalfreedom #emotionalintelligence #deepbreath #mentalhealthcoach #paradox #innerwork #mentalhealthwarrior #beinghuman #awakening #interconnected ⁠

Facing my own incompetence can make my brain a dan

Facing my own incompetence can make my brain a dangerous place to be.⁠
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My perfectionism amps up, I have no patience for my own mistakes, my thoughts get abusive and reactive, and I have zero access to self-compassion. ⁠
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If I don’t practice building a RELATIONSHIP with my incompetence I will actually AVOID learning opportunities, just so I don’t have to feel stupid.⁠
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For those of us that struggle with the learning process, most of our suffering is actually self-created! It’s not a response to the material we’re learning, we’re reacting to our own frustration with the PROCESS.⁠
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Our brains can’t learn in unsafe environments where expectations are high, mistakes are unwelcome and abuse is rampant. (Read that again).⁠
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In order to be able to learn, we have to make our brains safe environments in which to make mistakes, in which to experiment, take risks and be willing to follow a less-than-“perfect” learning trajectory. ⁠
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The game is self-acceptance and curiosity!⁠
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Rather than assuming we know what our learning is supposed to look like, and taking direction from the authority of our own shame, ask yourself:⁠
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“Is it possible that my vision for my learning curve is based in perfectionism?”⁠
“Is it possible that my brain is NOT an authority on how quickly I should learn?”⁠
“If I surrender my expectations of myself, what am I afraid I will lose?”⁠
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#perfectionism #learning #selfcompassion #selfkindness #greatexpectations #selfcriticism #highexpectations #learningcurve #imperfection #growthmindset🌱 #healingtogether #innerhealing #healingenergy #judgmental #knowthyself #typea #mentalhealthawareness #anxietyrelief #adultingishard ⁠

We have some seriously out-dated misconceptions ab

We have some seriously out-dated misconceptions about what we think makes us “good.” ⁠⁠
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Folks, now that we’re out of the dark ages, being virtuous is no longer measured by how much suffering you can withstand, your willingness to be sacrificial, or your kale intake!⁠⁠
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Virtue isn’t about being sacrificial to accommodate others, overriding our needs and wants or eating clean food, it’s about about our moral strength - our willingness to speak up for the voiceless, our willingness to tell the truth when we’re frightened, and our commitment to operating in integrity in our relationships. ⁠⁠
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What old standard of virtue are you willing to abandon? Tell me in the comments! ⁠⁠
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Follow @molliebirney for more life coaching tips!⁠⁠
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#selfknowledge #adulting #selfacceptancejourney #selfcompassion #selflovejourney #selfabandonment #innerwork #mentalhealthwarrior #radicallove #spiritualpath #awakening #selflovefirst #healingjourney #knowyourworth #iamenough #mentalhealthmatters #emotionalhealth #revolution #revolt #virtue #selfworthjourney

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